when being a good girl is bad


Video, '24/7' CSMCAD, 1993, 45mins unedited, silent 

The world is unfair, unjust, unknowable, out of control. When we tell a story we exercise control, but in such a way as to leave a gap, an opening. It is a version, but never the final one. And perhaps we hope that the silences will be heard by someone else, and the story can continue, can be retold.
― Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal, 2011

Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is diagnosed around four times more often in boys than in girls. Recently, researchers have started to question whether ASD may in fact be more common amongst females than has previously been thought. Girls and women are more likely to go undiagnosed or be misdiagnosed with other conditions, unable to access the right support, or gain a perspective on their condition. Diagnostic criteria have been, and to a certain extent still are, ...'biased towards the 'conventional' (male) presentation of ASD... [and] Females may be better able to adapt to, or compensate for, aspects of ASD… than are males...'  (Dworzynski et al., 2012).' Aspect Practice, Australia

musingsofanaspie.com  a brilliant blog by writer Cynthia Kim

when being a good girl is bad for you... 

does not show well
There is a significant disconnect between my verbal skills and my intelligence or literacy or whatever you want to call it. In short, I look better on paper. If I was a shelter pup, there would be a note in my file that said, "Does not show well." 

on silence... 


central coherence... Weak central coherence explains some of the talents and difficulties people with Asperger's syndrome have in cognitive, linguistic, and social abilities. In cognitive terms the person can sometimes identify details and notice connections that are not perceived by others who have a different mental framework. Identifying new connections and representation can contribute to being a successful scientist or artist, while attention to detail is an advantage to a contract lawyer, accountant or copy editor… One of the disadvantages is that it takes more time, and requires repetition and consistency to decipher the pattern in those [school] activities, where the simultaneous processing of information from many different sources is needed. 
― Tony Attwood, The Complete Guide to Aspergers Syndrome


People with AS may have real mental health problems not because of AS but because they are in an inflexible environment, or for the same reasons non-AS people have these problems. 
A Self Determined Future with Asperger Syndrome, Genevieve Edmonds